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Inspiration (not thinspiration)

My mother recently went on a trip and brought back a journal for me. It’s covered in pastel colored flowers and comic-sans-esque font. Not exactly my style. I showed my teeth and said, “Thanks.” Now I sit at home, after doing some busy traveling myself, paging through the ribbon encrusted book. It has a quote at the bottom of every few pages. Most make me snort-laugh at cheesiness. But then, I find my mind cranking and turning several minutes later. Something to spark a train of (positive-loving-myself-but-not-totally-fruity) thought. Maybe they can do the same for you. Don’t take it for what is it, but something much more. Get on with your cheesy self.

Loving other is easy when I love and accept myself.
My heart is open. I allow my love to flow freely. I love myself, I love others, and others love me.

I am worth loving.
I do not have to earn love. I am lovable because I exist. Others reflect the love I have for myself.

I accept my uniqueness.
There is no competition and no comparison, for we are all different and meant to be that way. I am special and wonderful. I love myself.

My thoughts are creative.
I say “Out” to every negative thought that comes to my mind. No person, place, or thing has any power over me, for I am the only thinker in my mind. I create my own reality and everyone in it.

It is safe to look within.
As I move through the layers of other people’s opinions and beliefs, I see within myself a magnificent being, wise and beautiful. I love what I see in me.

I forgive myself.
As I forgive myself, I leave behind all feelings of not being good enough, and I am free to love myself.

Better said by Good With Cheese: fuck that.



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A Brief Moment

Please take a brief moment (or a long one, for that matter, even the rest of your life if you’d please) to answer these questions.

1. What is the best compliment you have ever received?

2. What is the best compliment about your body you have ever received?

I want to know what makes each individual feel good. If you don’t want to answer to me, that’s just fine. The purpose is that you think about it. It’s strange how harsh words can stay stuck and repeating in us but we forget the nice ones.

I asked several high schoolers and adults yesterday, and they all had trouble answering. I asked an eight year old and she quickly replied, “You are beautiful.”

Do you realize what an impact it has to say those three words to a young soul? State the obvious, everyone needs to hear a kind word more than once.


Filed under anorexia, body image, compliments, eating disorders, pro-ana, pro-health, yanyb, you are not your body